In Vista and newer systems you should test Shift+Delete/Shift+F8 or change VistaDelete setting in wincmd.ini. In Windows XP and older systems messages are almost identical, both with "?" warning sound in normal TC mode.
F8/Delete in Windows XP- wrote: ---------------------------
Total Commander
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"?" Do you really want to delete the selected directory TEST?
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Yes No Cancel
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Shift+F8/Shift+Delete wrote: ---------------------------
Permanently delete
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"?" Do you really want to delete the selected directory TEST?
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Yes No Cancel
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